"God is my co-pilot" reads the bumpersticker. This implies God is in control with you. He's in the passenger seat next to you, holding the map, making suggestions. Rather ludicrous, don't you think?
Our society has seen God "tamed." We want all of the God-niceties, none of the bad. A saccharine God-substitue. Santa Claus, not King; Protector, not Judge. I think this goes a long way to explain our society's fascination with angels -- they're a sort of tame god in a way, right? All fluffy and nice and protecting and loving but unable to judge. Maybe it also explains an undue reliance on human beings who are in heaven to answer our prayers some how. We desperately want a tame God.
Is it okay to say "I just want God to be my partner, not my boss, not my king,"? I think appropriate here is the expression, "like hell it is."
You see, we know we love God if we obey Him. Check it out for yourself. The book of 1 John is a short read and it will go into detail for you on this point. We HAVE to obey Him. Does that sound like a partnership to you? Not to me. In fact, as I've stated before, there is no room in the Christian vocabulary for the phrase, "No, Lord." It's an oxymoron. Think about it.
You ask, "Do I have to love Him then?" A swift look at the ten commandments says you do! It's in Deuteronomy, too. "What more have I required of you?" asks God. Jesus says the law can be boiled down to loving God and loving your neighbor as yourself. Seems pretty darn important to God to put it first.
Thus: We know we have to love Him. We know we have to obey Him to love Him. We know we cannot obey Him and follow what WE want to do all the time. We have to be submissive and do what he wants. Therefore, God (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) is and must be our King, not our co-pilot or partner or any other watered-down nonsense you want to throw out there.
God abhors lukewarm Christianity that wants fluff and no matter. The scriptures say it makes Him vomit (Revelation won't take you that long to finish either. Check it out). Sounds pretty passionate about it, don't you think? It's like mocking him. Setting up a little straw-god to hang from your rear-view mirror. Rub it's noggin in times of trouble, kiss it for luck, tuck it under your pillow for sweet dreams. Don't take it too seriously. Don't, by any means, let it change your life. God says repeatedly that He will not be mocked. If you're making Him into a Santa Claus or a vending machine or a get-out-of-jail-free card while calling him God, you need to re-evaluate your faith and whether it fits with what you claim to believe.
If I seem to have taken a hard edge on this, I hope you'll show me where it can be softened and still be truthful. "